I'm trying to learn this new landscape of weekly infusions. I come away from infusion with a steroid induced thrum going through my body, heart and mind. I fully use it to propel me into going out, seeing people, steeling myself for the tapering off of those adrenaline boosting drugs. I'm making up lost time, from all the months of seclusion this summer and sickness. So I live those moments full because I can go from active- to flat on my back in sheer exhaustion, in mere seconds.
And the rest I am coping with? Is more nuisance and inconvenience. It feels like I need handfuls of Imodium to loosen the tether I feel to the bathroom. And the bloody noses. The dry, cracked, bleeding nose. The vaseline, the humidifier, the saline, the swabs, the kleenex. Just another taxol side effect, more bothersome than worrisome.
So I had every intention of being here, updating all that's transpired this past week or so... but it was Saturday night, when I crashed in a chilly heap on the bed. Nolan had hockey tryout scrimmages we'd attended, and despite the fact it was Superman's birthday, he was coming down with a cold, and so we simply ordered pizza in, and crashed early that night.
But in between the urgent rush to live full, and the crashing and burning that comes shortly after? Are all the sustaining moments that bless beyond measure.
Because it feels like the hard, is cushioned with His grace filled gifts, always.
Like when my cousin, Pam, sends me the above card, in black and white- its one of those moments that sustains me. The words, seep right into my heart and I'm nodding and smiling because they fit me so. She sends the best cards, with offers of help when I need it, and words that speak to me, and I just need her to know it sustains me so.
And then, at the same time, my friend, Connie, comes and brings me the cross from above. It fits so perfectly in my hand, and I'm clinging and holding and hanging on again. Thank you, Connie.
Then the surprise from the Brantners. They don't even know me! But they bless us with a Bell State Bank Pay it Forward check, that is generous, and touches me, because they've never laid eyes on me. But they humble me so, and honor me in a way that is hard to attach the right words to. But I'll start with these... Thank you, Laine and Tiffani. We went to the Moorhead bank branch and deposited it in my old "benefit," account. Every time, its close to being depleted, something shows up. I feel like He shows up. And we bank our gifts, knowing when the new deductible hits in January? We'll have help. Blessed help.
How about that collage picture on the bottom?
It was weeks ago when the call first came. I was sitting in the PT waiting room, surrounded by patients, waiting my turn for the Lymphedema therapist to see me.
I answered the phone in a hushed voice, and heard a hushed voice in return.
"Hi Vicky, this is Chery. (Chery is a Psychologist that facilitates our stage iv group.) We were wondering if there is any chance you might want to go to New York City? My mind hits pause, because did she really say, New York? Me, go to, New York?
"We have a Breast Cancer Conference, sponsored by the Avon Foundation, and were wondering if you'd like to attend with us? I'll go, and one other, plus you."
But most of this is somewhat lost on me, as its noisy in the waiting room, and I can barely hear, but I know I heard New York, and I'm saying Yes!
And suddenly, its only a couple of weeks away, December 1st, and I'll be leaving for New York City! We booked our airline tickets, and reserved hotel rooms, and the excitement of going keeps drawing me forward, sustaining me. The Avon Foundation granted us money to help run our support groups, and my mission? To help garner more funds!
And I have a special friend, Barb, with both enthusiasm and wonderful taste for fashion and style. She generously brought the "New York City," bag from TJ Max and filled it with things I could wear! She clipped ideas in pictures(above) and ran them past me, and then proceeded to get me all the right sizes, and mix and match colors and truly just gave me the confidence to feel like I'll look fine when I go.
Could the sparkling cider have arrived at any better time? Linda made sure to include it in a box with a pretty sweater, cute hats, and a scarf and the beautiful Rumi card. Its a Colton favorite and he can't wait to open it and enjoy.
As small as I feel sometimes, vulnerable, and stripped bare. How is it that my life feels so big? Far bigger in ways I could have ever dreamt it could be.
Its Ann Voskamp that sings it home for me:
“Humbly let go. Let go of trying to do, let go of trying to control, let go of my own way, let go of my own fears. Let God blow His wind, His trials, oxygen for joy's fire. Leave the hand open and be. Be at peace. Bend the knee and be small and let God give what God chooses to give because He only gives love and whisper a surprised thanks."
I'll humbly be whispering my thanks tomorrow as I go in for lab work, then doctor's appointment, then infusion for Taxol, Perjeta, and Herceptin. It's a long and full day... but this much I know is true...
~All shall be well~
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